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#121 - Unlocking Mindfulness: Daily Practices for Busy Women with Kelcie Clinkenbeard

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Have you ever wondered how a simple shift in your daily routine could lead to a more mindful and balanced life? On this episode of Ladies Kickin' Ass, we promise you'll discover the transformative power of self-care and mindfulness, specially tailored for women navigating the hectic mid-year period and approaching summer. Join us as we sit down with holistic wellness coach Kelcie Clinkenbeard, who bravely opens up about her journey from battling postpartum anxiety to finding healing through therapy, retreats, and yoga. Kelsey’s story is a testament to prioritizing self-care, particularly for mothers who often put themselves last. She shares invaluable insights and practical tips for anyone starting their self-care journey.

Experience the simplicity and profound benefits of mindfulness with Kelcie’s expert advice. We delve into practical ways to incorporate mindfulness into your daily routine, even amidst a busy schedule. From savoring your meals to embracing mindful walking, these small practices can profoundly calm your nervous system and enhance overall well-being. We also explore the contrast between holistic wellness and conventional approaches, highlighting the immense value of enjoying life's simple pleasures to foster genuine happiness and contentment.

In the latter part of our conversation, Kelcie introduces her empowering 12-week holistic wellness program. Designed to help individuals break free from limiting patterns and behaviors, this program offers meditations, journaling, and one-on-one sessions to achieve physical, emotional, and mental well-being. We discuss the ripple effect of personal growth on future generations and the importance of self-reflection and conscious choices. This enriching discussion could be the first step toward your holistic wellness journey. Tune in for inspiring stories, practical advice, and a roadmap to a more mindful, balanced life.

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Tanya Wilson:

Welcome to the Ladies Kickin' Ass podcast, where we help you ignite your inner badass and create the service business of your dreams. I'm your host, tanya Wilson, and together we'll dive into inspiring stories and expert coaching to set your journey on fire. Hey badasses, welcome back to ladies kicking ass. Um, today is going to be something that I think our souls and our hearts and our minds all need. I know I do. It's really kind of that crunch time. Can you believe that we're almost like halfway through the year of 2024? Like I can't even believe it. Like it just seems like the kids started going to school and now here we are at the end of school and I'm like shit, what are we going to do for the summer?

Tanya Wilson:

So this is a great conversation, and I definitely wanted to introduce you all to Kelsey today. Kelsey is a holistic wellness coach and she is going to drop all kinds of goodness on us today of why it's so important that we actually take care of ourselves. Why is it that we're not to be at the bottom of our to-do list anymore? Ladies, I'm talking to every single one of you because I know we all do this, and now we've got summer coming up too, and that makes it even harder to prioritize things, because now we're all probably going to have a house full of kids at home all the time too. Things, because now we're all probably going to have a house full of kids at home all the time too.

Tanya Wilson:

So this is a great opportunity for you to take some me time. Sit back, relax, have a conversation with Kelsey and I and let's talk about what it means to take care of yourself and make yourself a priority, and then Kelsey is going to talk about some methods in which you can do that and also a program that she offers that can help guide you along the way. If you're kind of like I don't even know where the hell to start, this is the girl that you want to talk to. So, kelsey, thank you so much for being here on the show with us today. Why don't you tell us a little bit about yourself not your business yet, but tell us who, kelsey?

Kelcie Clinkenbeard:

is. Well, thank you for having me. And that was a great explanation of kind of where this conversation will go. And that was a great explanation of kind of where this conversation will go. But I would love to start with just kind of how I got to where I am right now and doing what I'm doing. So rewind about 10 years.

Kelcie Clinkenbeard:

I was a young mom. I had kids at 25. And it all kind of happened really fast. So I had three girls in a matter of four years and was done before 30. It just kind of was a whirlwind.

Kelcie Clinkenbeard:

And what happened was after my first two came, I developed pretty big amount of postpartum anxiety. It slowly manifested. I didn't really notice, you know, and you just start to seclude yourself. Your world becomes really small. Everything feels very dreadful and I just felt really lost. I didn't feel aligned with what I was doing, I didn't feel aligned with the people I was spending time with and I didn't feel like I was enjoying my life or my kids. And it kind of all came to a head and I got on some antidepressants, which saved me because it showed me how far down that hole I had gone and that really sparked the path of healing for me. So that was before my third.

Kelcie Clinkenbeard:

But between that second and third child and I started seeking help of a counselor, I stayed on the medication for about nine months and then was able to get off and was already down that path of healing enough to manage that, you know anxiety down that path of healing enough to manage that you know anxiety. So after that I started to kind of crave more enlightenment in my own self. So I went on a retreat. I went on a week long retreat to Aruba and it was a trauma healing retreat. So it was a lot of intense work and I didn't really know what I was getting myself into doing it. But I think the universe kind of puts things in your path when you need them. So it sparked this whole journey for me and I went back from that and I signed up to do my first yoga teacher training, and this was 2020. That retreat was the December before, like COVID, you know. So it was right before. I had to be just completely isolated and face everything for me. So I started to go back into like what am I going to do? What do I want, what am I feeling told to do? And so I went down that path.

Kelcie Clinkenbeard:

Immediately after that I joined for a yoga therapy program. That was two years and I just dove into healing. I was so drawn to healing others just dove into healing. I was so drawn to healing others and I started to finally get that drive and that joy back. So from there I kind of started to work a lot with physical so I'd work with people who are having chronic pain, physical ailments, healing from things. And then in that work I started to see this emotional connection to our pain, to kind of those recurring thoughts and behaviors. And that was the route that I kind of felt this passion towards. And I started working at Barrow Neurological with the Parkinson's patients there and in that I started to work in subconscious level, healing a bit with the meditation, mindfulness and that kind of brought in that aspect of my work.

Kelcie Clinkenbeard:

And then this whole time that's where I kind of met in that aspect of my work. And then this whole time that's where I kind of met Nicola and everything. But it kind of was just this big long journey of like I'm so anxious, I don't know what I'm doing, I'm lost, I don't even know who I am anymore. I'm in this motherhood role but you just kind of you got to hit that rock bottom of, just okay, I'm uncomfortable, what am I going to do about it? So that's where it's brought me here and now I'm loving what I'm doing and just I think I'll be a student forever, learning forever. But yeah, that's kind of my path.

Tanya Wilson:

Very cool. I think so many women can relate with being in this just level of anxiety.

Tanya Wilson:

I know I've been there before where you're like I have to find something different. Like you just hit a point in your nervous system and it's it's a biological thing, like your body will just start shutting down. It's like enough of this shit. Like you got to do something different and it will happen. When you're under tremendous amounts of stress, you're taking on too much, you're just feeling overwhelmed, which some of those things can really lead to burnout. It can definitely lead towards that rabbit hole of anxiety, things like that. Yeah, I really do relate with you and share in that. Like after you have babies, ladies, you know, sometimes things just don't go back the way they're supposed to and you can't put a finger on it but it is definitely something that deserves attention, and just because there's not a physical manifestation of it doesn't mean that it's not real.

Tanya Wilson:

So if that's something, that you're going through.

Tanya Wilson:

we definitely want to call attention to that, that we understand and that you're not alone with that that there are beautiful things to be able to help you work through these things. I would love to jump into Kelsey, like talking about what mindfulness means to you. I know sometimes people when they hear you say, oh, like breathing practices or mindfulness or getting still or you know meditation. I know, for me I was super resistant to it for a long time Cause I'm like there's too many voices in my head of you got to do this.

Tanya Wilson:

You got to do this, like you can't stop and put things down and just do something for yourself. What does mindfulness mean to you? And when people are kind of leery of that, how do you explain what it means to just like have a mindfulness practice?

Kelcie Clinkenbeard:

This is a great question. So also, I get this so often where they're like well, you know, yoga and meditation, all this is not going to just fix everything, and it's a big point. It does not just fix everything. It is a huge help and I think what it'll do is it'll help people maintain after they've kind of tackled their big things. So if you're back with depression, anxiety, get help and use this as the tool that will continue to help you stay out of needing more help. So I always like to preface that I would never say this is the only thing you need when you're dealing with those serious issues.

Kelcie Clinkenbeard:

But mindfulness, to me it's so simple. It is just simply being in the present moment and living in that present moment. You're not worried about what's happening in five minutes, you're not worried about what just happened an hour ago. You're in your body, fully experiencing whatever it is that you're doing. So this is, you know, obviously unrealistic for every moment of every day.

Kelcie Clinkenbeard:

But what you can do to kind of develop that practice is to bring in moments of mindfulness every single day, whether it's 30 seconds, five minutes, whatever you can manage, but taking time where you're say you sit down for lunch and you're like you know I don't have anything to do for the next few minutes. Take that time to be like I'm going to really be present. So you start to just notice your body, notice your feet on the ground, notice the experience of eating, notice all the sensations that are in your body at that moment. What do you see around you? Like? Just use your senses to become present. Simple and again, you can let this linger for as long as you have, but do that throughout your day and just bringing yourself back into your body because we're floating around, we're just like autopilot going about our day. Sometimes you don't even realize how we got, where we're going.

Kelcie Clinkenbeard:

We just go, we're not even present we're just like floating along, so taking that time, if you're on a walk or you're walking up to a building before a meeting, bring yourself into your body, feel your feet walking, look around, notice the leaves, whatever. It's so simple. So what this does, though, is it brings your brain into that state where you're you're, you're gonna get sympathetic or uh sorry, parasympathetic. In those moments, your nervous system will calm down, because what happens is, if you're stressed about that meeting, you're not in that meeting right now, and when you allow your brain to live in this present moment, if you're stressed about that meeting, you're not in that meeting right now, and when you allow your brain to live in this present moment, like you're just walking there's, you don't have to worry about that meeting right now. So you're going to calm your nervous system. You're going to perform better in those meetings or whatever task you're going to do, so the more you practice bringing your brain into that place, the more you're going to naturally go to that place in moments where you can.

Kelcie Clinkenbeard:

So, when you're in a meeting doing something stressful, it's okay that you're kind of in a heightened state, because that's just the way you're going to function, but in the moments you don't need to be there. Your body and your brain will allow you to be in a more relaxed state, naturally without the effort. It's just a practice, you know just like the more you do it, the more your brain will want to go to that place. And so then there's the calmer you're going to be overall, so you're going to experience things differently, you're going to react differently, you're going to gain more control over your emotions and triggers, because you'll have that space to just kind of not be an autopilot, to realize OK, this happened, what do I want to do with it? So that's to me, that's the mindfulness practice, but beyond that, of course, there's the meditation, which takes things to another level. So mindfulness is all day, every day, just whenever you get time, just bring it in See how it feels.

Tanya Wilson:

I love that just jumping back into your body, like I love what you were talking about. Like you sit down for lunch and you don't have something to do, like how many times do we sit down at lunch?

Tanya Wilson:

we're like oh shit, I can check your nails while I'm trying to eat this sandwich at the same time. Then you get done eating like I have literally done that before and I'm like what did I eat for lunch? Like you have been physically present there and it's like what did I eat for lunch? Like you don't even like realize the taste of the food, things like that, and it's just like, I think, just overall health altogether if we would listen more to what's actually going on in our bodies you don't have so many big red flags showing up, because they're small things that start showing up long before the huge red flags come up.

Kelcie Clinkenbeard:

And the point you made is so great. Where you're talking about you don't taste the food. So our song. You know you're going to be like I'm eating lunch. This is boring, I'm just going to go on my phone and scroll.

Kelcie Clinkenbeard:

So our brain is addicted to dopamine. You know we're going to want that dopamine hit, checking our email, checking our Instagram, whatever just to get that dopamine. A more natural way to get dopamine is to enjoy food, but that's not as big, you know, like that's not as big of a dopamine hit. So we're going to be constantly searching for that like large dopamine hit. But the more that you can allow yourself to get a more natural dose by going in the sun and just like being present in the sun, that's also going to do that same thing. Enjoying your food, enjoying the sensation of the wind, like these all do the same thing on a lesser level. So the more you can take yourself out of that extreme dopamine rush that you get from technology or emails or reels or whatever, you're going to be able to enjoy the simple things in life more and that's going to just make life much more happy and you're going to feel content.

Tanya Wilson:

Yes, oh, that's beautiful. I want to bring up the term holistic with you because I feel I feel like people are a lot more open to holistic wellness now than has ever been before. Um, can you tell us a little bit what that word actually means and what the difference is between, you know, going at it with a holistic approach versus, like I just go to the doctor and get medication when something is wrong with my approach?

Kelcie Clinkenbeard:

Yeah, that's a great one to bring up too, because it's kind of like a trendy word or do people even really know what they're talking about? So holistic, to me, I love that because it's kind of saying it's something you already have the ability to heal in yourself. So when you're doing something holistically, you aren't needing to seek so much external for the healing. So I believe, honestly, most of us have all the tools we need to heal ourselves already.

Kelcie Clinkenbeard:

I simply want to help, be a guide, to help you get those tools to come out. So I'll give you an example. So say, someone comes and they're like I'm just so anxious, I want to feel more peace and I want to feel like I have more control of my life. To me, that person already has that in them. They just need to find it. We all have all of the feelings we want in us. You want to feel successful. You can feel successful today in what you're doing today. You don't need to get a new job, you don't need to get a new house to feel successful. You have the ability to feel that right now. You just have to learn to access it.

Kelcie Clinkenbeard:

So, working holistically, I'm giving people tools to pull out things they already have the ability to get from themselves using food, using their own body, movement, working, exercise, whatever going on, walks, sleep these things we already have the ability to access right now. You don't need to go anywhere different to access them. So holistic, in my view of it, of that word is that I'm. I'm working with everything you already have and I'm just guiding you to find them within yourself, because I don't want to have somebody need me for the rest of their life. You know I want them to learn the tools, find that within themselves and realize that you already have that ability. But a lot of people don't believe that yet. So I tried to kind of. You know, I have people come to me all the time and I want to do that, but I just don't feel like I can because I've tried everything you know or I'm not going to be able to do it, I won't be able to finish it. It's immediately you don't believe that you can. What you do you can.

Tanya Wilson:

Everyone can, yeah what you believe you can do. You know, I really, I truly live by like that. If you're telling yourself that you can't, then don't even start. You know, you've already know, forecasted, what the result of that is going to look like. There is something very true as well Having met Nicola and having met you Kelsey and I actually went to an event where they were speaking there is something that sometimes you need to reevaluate your environment in, where you're trying to be like I want to be this peaceful, I want to bring peace and I want to be, have more peace in my life, but I'm like constantly in chaos shit show coordinator over here all the time. You can't live in that and expect to be peaceful. So where can you go and what outlets can you seek? I say this because, like I'm at work and I'm like the fire putter router and then you go home and you're the mom and you put out the fires there and you're just constantly running around.

Tanya Wilson:

You have to invest and seek out people that can help you get to where you want to go, something that we're meeting these wonderful women is that there's like a level of like calmness and peace when talking to both of you, that like you just feel that in a room and when you don't have those people naturally in your life and you're trying to achieve that, it's kind of like you know, cleaning up your house when you've got three three-year-olds running around, Like it's just not going to happen.

Tanya Wilson:

You can try your best efforts, but you're going to be constantly interrupted. You've got to seek out those things, and what I love with what you're doing, kelsey, is that you offer those things to the community if you're local here in the Phoenix area, but you also have a program in which you will help guide people if they are interested in doing this. So it's something that I've already seeked out for you. So you definitely need to check out Kelsey's program. Why don't you tell us a little bit about what the 12 week program is that you guys offer through your program YHHJ?

Kelcie Clinkenbeard:

Yeah, absolutely so. First of all, that was a great point because I think your environment and the people you surround yourself with it's it's gonna man, it's gonna create your world. So, um, this program, what it's gonna do is it's gonna kind of help you, uh, identify patterns, behaviors, or even just people you tend to be around, or experiences you put yourself into, and how those might be holding you back from what you're wanting. So if you come and you want, you have a goal, even if it's, you know, physically I just don't feel comfortable in my body. Physically I'm not liking my job or, you know, emotionally I'm struggling, I can't get past these things or I just keep reverting to the same old things that I keep doing and I don't like it. So this is going to help you identify what those are.

Kelcie Clinkenbeard:

And maybe you've got some, you know, past, limiting beliefs that have been programmed into your subconscious that are holding you back from making those changes, because our ego and our subconscious is comfortable with the same thing. So that doesn't matter if that same thing is abuse or something really healthy. It wants what's comfortable, because something different feels like life or death. So your ego and your subconscious is going to fight to keep you in that same pattern and behavior because it knows it. You know, if you're going to go down this road and you're like, well, last time we went there you did this and we survived, I'm going to just go that way, you don't want to go this way because, like well, we don't know. It's like taking that new path is just really uncomfortable for our brains. So the course is going to help you identify what those comforts are that keep you from kind of expanding or growing, and then you're going to find tools. Through some of the meditations that I guide you on journaling questions, just reflection, and then one-on-one sessions with us you can break those patterns down and using awareness and tools and honestly it's a whole body approach. So you're bringing in movement, bringing in healthy sleep, healthier eating habits maybe, and the mindfulness is a big part of it too. Like I said, you need to be present to start to notice these things. You're not going to notice these patterns and behaviors on autopilot. So that's basically.

Kelcie Clinkenbeard:

The program is changing your patterns and behaviors to get you where you want to go. So it's very much personalized. Whatever your goals are is the goal of the program for you, and while it's laid out. It's all very much tailored to what you need. In your sessions You're going to be getting specifics. You can use those sessions as whatever you want.

Kelcie Clinkenbeard:

If you just need to talk through that, talk through something that came up that week in the coursework. And we had it to be 12 weeks on purpose because it takes about nine weeks for those new neural pathways to form when you get to that crossroads and you can either go down that same path or a new path. You've got to kind of slowly build that path up so that it's something your brain is comfortable doing, and that takes around nine weeks. So giving it that extra three just for good measure but yeah, that's what we do and we dive into boundaries, communication, like towards the end. How does this look in our lives? Because a lot of times people want to make the changes but then showing up in their, in their relationships, differently is where it gets really hard and scary.

Tanya Wilson:

ah um, I loved what nicole had kind of um spoken about too, with how many times environmentally still on that subject, like we, you've heard people that are like, oh, it lost 100 pounds and then you see them like two years later and they've gained 150 back and you're like how did this happen you know they went to something you see this like on the biggest loser when that was on tv all the time. These people would lose all my people.

Tanya Wilson:

They were there and they were focused and they were doing stuff. And then they got home and they didn't change their environment. Their environment changed while they were on the show. It didn't change when they got home.

Tanya Wilson:

And that is very, very difficult to adopt now, a new lifestyle, when the environment is the same and we're not saying like, oh, you go through this approach and say you're having issues with your husband or something.

Tanya Wilson:

You're like go home and you're like, see, I'm out, you know, but having open conversations with them and saying like, look, this is the path that I need to be on for myself, wellness wise, and just setting that expectation for the people that are in your environment. And if there are those people in your environment that you can, you know, step back from if they're not providing something good for you, we have to be able to do those things. I know there's so many wonderful women in this community that they're like but it's my family, but it's this, but it's that it doesn't matter, it matters how they treat you, it doesn't matter how they got there. And so really making sure that you're doing that after you've invested in this program I know you guys have a wonderful community of people too Is there ongoing support that they have with this program once they sign up with you guys or how do you encourage them to continue living this new or healthier lifestyle?

Kelcie Clinkenbeard:

Yes, so my personal passion is a lot around relationships and communication. I'm a communication is just. I'm a big talker and I really value vulnerability and in-depth relationships. I think it's crucial for survival of relationships, in friendships and in intimate relationships, children relationships, all of those. So personally, I like to work with people a lot on bringing that in.

Kelcie Clinkenbeard:

As you do this work, and when you say changing the environment, this is kept coming up in my mind, but you're changing almost more of the internal environment. So your external environment might stay very much the same, but the landscape inside the mind is what's changing. So your internal space is going to look and feel very different, and so, as you project that out, you might lose people that weren't really there for you anyways, or the way you interact with people might change, and it's hard. Sometimes there's discomfort with that. It's not to say that making these changes is always just easy peasy, and I said I'm so this is easy, I love it. I love it Like you're going to have difficulties, but there's always difficulties and things that are important. So that internal landscape does change and that's how you show up to people and so your relationships and your dynamics with work and with you know spouses and children are going to change for the better by far. The mother I am now compared to the mother I was when I had my first, just I mean so different I can't even explain it. It's maybe the most important part of all of this is just changing that for your kids and helping them to not have to make as many changes in the long run.

Kelcie Clinkenbeard:

And I think that the ongoing support we provide, which is like continuing to have sessions and obviously you want it to taper off eventually because you don't want to always have to rely on somebody, but it's almost like you can use it after you've done the program, you can come to us for one on one sessions, kind of a la carte. You can connect with us that way or you can use you. You know the. We always send out information, educational things, but we are available for one-on-one sessions. I do meditation sessions as support, just as a coach, more as like a life coach type support if people are struggling particularly with like communication and how to to navigate, navigate relationships, post course work. I love to work with that because, um, like I said, that's a passion of mine. I think relationships are one of the most important things we have and it's crucial how you show up in those.

Tanya Wilson:

Absolutely. I love what you just touched on in how you have become a different mother, Because something I believe tremendously is, if you are someone that has been through a lot of trauma or you've been through traumatic experience at all, you know when you heal yourself, you heal your kids, Because when you don't heal yourself, you pass it on to your kids and it may never come out verbally, but it will come out in actions and even avoidance, and so if you want to make you know we talk a lot about on the podcast about making a ripple effect and what that looks like for people Like I'm super passionate about that, because sometimes you have to make really tough decisions. In order to do this. You've got to really buckle down hard, but the people that will benefit from you choosing to work on yourself and make space for yourself and time for yourself can never be quantified because it will continue through other generations that don't have to deal with that crap. So this is a beautiful, beautiful thing that I've seen even manifest in my own family.

Tanya Wilson:

So I always get super teary-eyed about that. Everybody knows I just start crying on here all the time. But it's so true because when you really do invest that time we were talking about before we hit record. Quit putting yourself at the end of it. It's kind of like it's kind of like a weird metaphor, but it's so true Like if you ever want to be wealthy and be able to retire, you have to not wait for the scraps and the pennies that are left over after you go, pay your bills and have fun. You have to make that investment from the beginning and then build a lifestyle on what is left over.

Kelcie Clinkenbeard:

And if we?

Tanya Wilson:

would really think about that. With our own mental health, our own awareness of ourself, working professionally and personally on ourselves, then we have time for everything else in our lives, and all that everything else just becomes so much better than if we prioritize it backwards and we do all the shit first and then we give them the leftover crap, energy, that that they don't deserve, especially in relationships, especially with building your business and really authentically being able to show up as yourself, because your best self is not the end of your day, it's not the end of who you are.

Tanya Wilson:

It's not the end of who you are, it's at the beginning part, when you've got all of that steam and gusto and oomph to want to do things. So, so important that you make sure that if you have never experienced a program like what Kelsey and Nicole put together, I would highly, highly encourage you to look into something like that. Make time for yourself to be able to do it. I know a lot of times we're like, oh, 12 weeks.

Tanya Wilson:

We're not saying you got to dedicate 12 weeks of your life to this and that's all you're going to be doing, even if you pick up one little thing every week that will help you to become whatever your goal is a better person as a whole, a better mom, a better wife, a better partner. A better person as a whole, a better mom, a better wife, a better partner, a better businesswoman. There's so many things that change when you work on you. Everything around you gets better.

Kelcie Clinkenbeard:

Absolutely, and you will. If anything, too, you're going to learn what you want, you're going to learn who you are and you're going to really connect with all the different parts of yourself. When you're trying to be a mother, you've got to know you also have that inner child in you that's competing with your own kids. You've got to give them what they need, so that you have to give what you can to your kids. So I think that's a big takeaway is that if there's something in you that's needing attention, support, listen to it, seek that out. You know, and we, I'm sure that you can link it. But we, we always take people into the course who are ready and we feel we do an application process. So I'm going to make sure that, if you're going to spend the money and commit to this, that you're ready and with a discovery call, like we, we vet the people and you know if you're going to do it, it's going to be the right bit. Oh, I love that. So much.

Tanya Wilson:

Just, I saw an Instagram post one day and I I've saved it.

Tanya Wilson:

I've seen it in a couple of different variations of postings, but the question was tell me who you are without mentioning that you're a mom, a wife or partner, and what you do for a living and how many people?

Tanya Wilson:

Just kind of because we instantly want to go to the things as women that we serve, that we make better, that we're working on that are accomplishments. But really being able to sit with that Ever since I saw that I'm like that is just part of my journaling practice in the morning is to sit there and like who am I Like? What do I want? Not what is best for this person or this person, what do I want. And really being able to journal and write that down or even speak it out loud really makes you again more aware of who you are and what you want and tailoring a life to that. How many times we look at our schedule and we're like I have to go do this and I shouldn't have said yes like the yeses cause the stresses, you know, and we continue to keep doing that shit to ourselves.

Tanya Wilson:

When you spend more time with yourself, you realize I don't want to do that and I don't have to feel bad for not saying yes to this, because it's not serving the higher mission of who I'm trying to become.

Tanya Wilson:

And it's not attached to something that can be taken away from you, like a job or an external person. It's work that is done inside of yourself. So if you're wondering where to invest time and money, that's my number one thing to anybody right now is invest it in yourself, because everything else will just grow infinitely from there.

Tanya Wilson:

Absolutely such a good point. Beautiful, beautiful, well, thank you so much for this. Of course, we will put the links to the 12-week course in the show notes. If you want to check out nicole's podcast on this, where she talked about it too, it's number 112. They work hand in hand together. I'm so excited to be able to get you guys on within a close amount of time so that we can definitely let people know that this is a two-part.

Tanya Wilson:

It's a dynamic duo of badass ladies that want to help you become more badass yourself, and that isn't just always about accomplishing the next thing or hitting the next dollar figure in your business. And I understand that we're all super motivated as crazy, but you have to be equally motivated, or more so, to make sure that you're spending that time with yourself. So I love this so much. Kelsey, at the end of the podcast, I always ask everybody because I love to hear what it means to each individual. It's always so different, but when you hear the phrase ladies kick an ass, what does that mean to you in your life?

Kelcie Clinkenbeard:

in your life.

Kelcie Clinkenbeard:

I think that it means to me ladies being exactly who they are, without any guilt, shame or, you know, feeling resistance. So when I see someone out there being very authentic who they are, if it's weird, if it looks weird, if it looks different, like I'm just like, go you. If it's weird, if it looks weird, if it looks different, like I'm just like, go you, be who you are. And if that's you know, working as a CEO, or if that's being a stay at home mom, if it's you, it's you, and that's to me you're kicking ass. If you're doing exactly what you want to be doing.

Tanya Wilson:

Yes, oh my gosh, fill your cup with whatever it is you want to do. It doesn't need to be accepted by anybody except for you. So, what a beautiful, beautiful way to end this beautiful podcast. Thank you so much, Kelsey, and of course we will link everything in the show notes. If somebody wants to follow you online, where's the best place for them to find you?

Kelcie Clinkenbeard:

Instagram I have. It's the YHHJ Instagram is on there, and then I have my own personal one as well. That's kind of linked to that too, but it's Kelsey clinking beard and we can link that as well, but Instagram, so be aware.

Tanya Wilson:

Okay, awesome. Well, thank you so much, ladies, and head into this summer season this year With a simple meditation, a simple time that you make for yourself. Get up five minutes before everybody else does in your house in the morning and just enjoy the silence and enjoy and think about what your day is going to bring to you, and just bring some positivity and light into yourself. I promise you it will make a massive difference.

Kelcie Clinkenbeard:

So, thank, you again, Kelsey. Thank you.

Tanya Wilson:

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